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There is a Fine Line Between Stupid and Brilliant

When Sarah was smaller I would tell her not to touch something and this is what she would say:


“But I MUST touch it.  I HAVE to touch it.  I NEED to touch it.”

Do you know where she gets that from?



This weekend Emily was at her dad’s, Sarah was napping and Tyler was napping as well.  So I decided that instead of writing some posts, or catching up on my reading, I would tinker with my blog.  Update some plug-ins; add some plug-ins, etc.

Sounds good, right?

I started at 12:36 PM and ended at 11:30 PM.


Did you notice that I was online for 11 hours?!

Somewhere along the way, I lost my homepage.

But I knew that I could fix it by myself.  I just knew I could.

At 10:00 PM Tyler came into the kitchen where I was sitting working on my laptop and he suggested that I call the support hotline.


But that would be just too smart wouldn’t it?

I did not call because I just knew I could fix it.  Oh, yes, and I will NOT stop and ask for directions either.

Back when I was on Blogger, I knew that if something went wrong I had about a 70% chance that I could figure it out.  Now that I am on WordPress, I have about a .5% chance.

Last night I saw a whole world of databases, root directories, servers that are just too complex for my teeny, tiny brain, but you know what I did?


I HAD to click it.  I NEEDED to click it.  I CLICKED it.

And I lost my entire blog and also my blog dashboard!

So I went to bed.

My head was spinning and my heart was racing and my muscles were tightening.  I watched a taped episode of Letterman which usually lulls me to sleep.  I was almost there, when Letterman turned off and I heard people moaning and groaning.


Was somebody having sex in my room? 

I looked at the TV and apparently at 1:30 AM on Cinemax there is some pretty risqué stuff.

Now I was in a pickle.  If I got up out of bed to get the remote on Tyler’s side of the bed, I would risk waking Millie who was sound asleep in her crate.  However, I also didn’t think I could fall asleep to soft porn playing in the background.

So I laid in bed for a bit and pondered my dilemma.

Meanwhile I noticed that the guy on the TV looked vaguely like the kid whose locker was next to mine in the 7th grade.  So I sat up to see if I could see him clearer and made a mental note to Google him in the morning.

Kind of makes me look forward to that class reunion next summer.


How you doin’?

With all of these thoughts racing through my head coupled with code, html, databases, index, php, SQL, servers… well… I just burst out laughing because this was just NOT how I had planned to spend my weekend.

In the end, I decided to carefully hop out of bed and change the channel.  I was just about at that relaxed drool stage when our weather radio siren went off in the kitchen.

Just peachy!



And I went back to bed.  I had had enough.  Go ahead and blow me away, make my day.  I bet there are no computers in heaven.

I woke up on Sunday and started Googling my problem.

2 hours later I finally called that Support Line. 

2 Hours after that I had a Homepage.

1 hour after that my feed was back on track.

Do you want to know what caused me all of my problems?  Do you?

A plug-in (like a widget) caused everything to go haywire after I updated WordPress 2.9 to 3.1.

I deactivated the Plug-in and voila!  Here is am!


Hello.  How are YOU today?

You know if I had something medically wrong with me I wouldn’t attempt to perform surgery on myself. 

When I have transmission problems, I don’t pop the hood of my car and just “tinker” around.


Why in God’s Green Earth, do I feel that I am able to fix computer problems by myself?  Why?

Although, I must say, the tech support girl was wonderful and she did tell me that I had to update WordPress on my server as well, but that still didn’t fix my problem with losing my Homepage.

As stupid as I am capable of being at times, I fixed that all by myself!

It just goes to show you, that there is a fine line between stupid and brilliant. (just so you know, I was stupid and now I am back to feeling brilliant.)


It's Not You, It's Me…

{Wednesday, July 14th is 77kids Do Good Day.  I will be writing about how I will be doing “good.”  How will you do good on Wednesday?  Do a Random Act of Kindness with me and link up!}

So…  How is your summer going?

Mine is going along with lightening speed and no matter how hard I try to make it stop, it won’t.

This is also my first summer writing and most days I feel like I am letting the world down.

Ok… well… that may be a tad on the dramatic side, but you get the idea.

I came across this site, Shades of Blue and Green, and I thought the idea was so super cool:

I am a P.O.S. – Prisoner of Summer

She has a ton of buttons to choose from and all of them mean one thing:

It is summer and I am doing the best I can.  Period.

I do feel the guilt.  Every single day.

I can’t help it – it is just who I am.  If you have been with me for awhile you know how I was pre-summer.  I returned every single comment and was very attentive.

And now?  Well, Vanessa, Much More Than Mommy, is my friend and she had to send me an email telling me to get over to see her vlog!!  I felt horrible, but I got my busy self over to her fantastic vlog, ASAP!

I want to say Thank You to everyone who comes here every single day and reads what I have to say.  I know exactly who you are and I won’t forget it.

Every comment, every email and award, I do really cherish.  Especially now in the summer because I KNOW how busy we all are and how time is oh so precious.


Do you know that Sarah turns 3 years old on July 19th

3 years have gone by in the blink of an eye.  Emily is 10, so I know how fast it all goes.

Someday I will have all of the time in the world.

But I won’t have anyone to picnic with, or to collect rocks with, and nobody is going to ask me to push them on the swing.

I will never, ever get this time back again with my girls, but someday I will have all of the time in the world to sit at my computer and work.

I am the mom on the first day back to school that sobs after I have said my goodbyes.

Kids win over work every day in the summer.

I am working on the blog guilt, but mom guilt? That is the kind of guilt I just can NOT handle.

Thank you for your continued loyalty; it’s not you, it’s me.

How are you handling the summer?  Do you feel guilty trying to fit it all in?

Please, No Trophies for Mother’s Day

**Feel Good Friday is tomorrow!  I have a doozy of a Sarah Story, complete with pictures, that has been making me feel good all week! 
What will you write about?**

It is that time of year again. Mother’s Day followed by my birthday, in June, and it has already started…

I need new knobs on my bedroom closet doors and Tyler asks if that would be a good gift.

I would kind of like an iPad…

We need a new broom since our old one broke and Tyler asks if that would be a good gift.

I don’t know why, but I would kind of like an iPad…

There is a class coming up on “How to Properly Take Care of Your New Pool” and Tyler asked if that would be a good gift.

I will go if I can take my new iPad…

And No, a Bobblehead Trophy because I am the World Champion of Free Throws is not a good gift.

Unless it comes with an iPad.

The thing is… I am extremely hard to buy for if I do not ask for something in particular.

Hello! iPad!

So today, I did something really radical to save poor Tyler from his gift giving worries because an iPad would be too expensive.

No. It wouldn’t. Mr. Golf All Summer and you got a new TV and I am really sad about Emma.

What is it?

I have finally bit the bullet and am getting a complete blog design makeover and moving to WordPress!!

I am excited and nauseous all at the same time.

I would be less nauseous and more excited with an iPad.

I have chosen to work with Katie Lane at DreamUp Studios because I absolutely fell in love with her site.

Not only does she design WordPress blogs, she also does Blogger and other platforms, plus Website Design as well.  Basically, if you need it, she has the talent to design it and make it happen!  See for yourself:

In addition to loving her design work, how can you not love someone who, when I asked her a question, stayed up all night figuring it out!!

I woke up in the morning to find 2 emails she sent to me during the wee hours of the night.

And that is even before I officially signed on with her!

How awesome is that?!

So, Thank You Tyler and Katie…. Happy Mother’s Day to Me!!!

What do YOU want for Mother’s Day this year?

Is it an iPad?

PS. If you are still reading this teeny tiny writing, I will settle for a new coffee mug! Love you babe!!!

A Commentary on Commenting

6 months ago I started this blog because I love to write and tell stories about my life. I was thrilled with a single comment. Slowly my subscriber and follower numbers grew.

On January 2, 2010, my followers hit 100 and I would shake with pure excitement over getting 20 comments. It was rare, but it happened.

I would spend my 2-3 hour window of blog time writing, tinkering with my design, reading blogs and replying to the comments that I received.

It was bliss, but I longed to be a “big” blogger.

There was one blogger that had 350 followers and I really liked her blog. I would comment and comment and comment and she never replied with a “Thank You” or ever stopped by to my paltry little blog.

It was right there and then I decided that I would never be like her.

I vowed to always reply and comment back to the people who took the time to stop by my site.

Up until about a month ago, I think I have been true to my own word. One of my favorite bloggers, Ally at Tales of a Fourth Grade Nothing even gave me a special shout out because of it.

I was touched.

But you know what?

There is no way to comment back to 30-50 comments a day in a 2 hour time frame.

I try to fit in commenting in the morning, while watching TV at night and so on and so on, but I am still behind.

On top of that Emma, our dog, is most definitely dying before my eyes. One minute she is playing with Jack, the other she is laying on the ground and I swear she won’t open her eyes.

It is hard.

Then it is Spring, and we are outside more and someone thinks that she doesn’t need that extra ½-1 hour of sleep in the afternoon. A half hour makes a whole lot of difference, let me tell you.

For the past 2 weeks or so I have been working my tail off trying to accomplish this feat of getting back to everybody within a day and it is just not possible.

Originally I planned to tell you today that I was dropping down to a 3 post a week schedule so that I could get to everyone’s comments before a new post came out.

I had told a few friends and family about this and their response was shocking! Even though they have seen how much it troubles me they said to keep writing because they enjoy it.

And I am going to.  Because I love to write.

The season has changed and so has my blogging philosophy.

Don’t hate.

I am going to reply by email, if you have it turned on, to everyone. I also plan to visit everyone’s site that comments on mine, BUT it might not be on the same day anymore.

I have a lot of very loyal readers and I have to say I LOVE YOU ALL!!!

Hey Vanessa? Remember when you sent me that email when we first met saying I was all “famousy” as you put it and I laughed at you because I am so not.

Famousy isn’t everything. I do really feel bad that I don’t always get to your blog every day that you post because I really love your blog Much More Than Mommy.

Then there is ASBLACKASOBAMA’s blog I Think It’s Interesting – you know what? So do I. I love reading the stuff you put on there. It is quick. It is fun. I hate that I missed your TV Theme Song Post on Friday because I love participating in that game every week.

Really, except for the random person who leaves a “LOL” or “Too Funny” I love reading all of your blogs.  If I am not by your site every single day, it does not mean I do not like you, it just means that I just can’t get there every single day.

For those of you who email me directly with comments and questions, please still do. I love helping and listening in any way I can.

One change will be that I am adding a Top Commenters widget because I think loyalty should be recognized more than the occasional shout out. You know who you guys are.

There is one thing I am sure of: I love sharing these stories of my life with you. I love making you laugh and hearing how similar we all are.

I am almost at 500 followers and I never thought I would be here this fast. This is all new to me. Please understand that I do the best I can and that I am honored that you choose to follow and comment on what I have to say each and every day.

Thank you for sharing My Little Corner of the World

Come along with me to my little corner of the world
Dream a little dream in my little corner of the world
You’ll soon forget that there’s any other place
Tonight, my love, we’ll share a sweet embrace

And if you care to stay in my little corner of the world
We could hide away in my little corner of the world
I always knew that I’d find someone like you
So welcome to my little corner of the world

And if you care to stay in our little corner of the world
We could hide away in our little corner of the world
We always knew that we’d find someone like you
So welcome to our little corner of the world
 Music From Gilmore Girls soundtrack lyrics — My Little Corner Of The World .. Yo La Tengo

Obviously some of these lyrics aren’t appropriate, but you get the point. And I love this song! Enjoy.

Girl. Wife. Mommy. Daughter. Me

**Don’t forget to think about your Feel Good Friday post. What is Feel Good Friday? In case you missed it, click here to find out.**

All I can say is WOW! I wrote a post last week asking you about your blogging style and your comments blew me away!

Thank you.

Your comments inspired another question that I have been having a problem with…


Back in August my daughter, Emily, wanted to create a website. As we sat at the computer researching it I came across Blogger. I had absolutely no idea what that was and started poking around. Well, I was mesmerized. I knew that blogging would be for me.

I write in my head all of the time and I used to write it down, sometimes, but there was never a realistic goal. With blogging, now there is a goal.

I spent a great amount of time designing this blog and then doing more research and once school started I launched my site.

As time has worn on, I feel that I am into a groove, but there is just so much more I want to do, write, read, network, etc. And it all keeps coming back to “time.”

I had a full life before Blogger.

Now, as a SAHM of 2, I have a pretty tight routine. I usually blog during Sarah’s 2 hour naptime. Thanks to technology I can read comments on my phone sporadically throughout the day, and sometimes manage to squeak out reading a blog or two while making dinner, but generally, when the girls and Tyler are here, I am with them.

There have been a few times when I have read and replied while they are here and it doesn’t go over so well since they are used to me always being “available.”

So, my questions to you are:

When do you blog?

How does your family feel about your blogging?

And most importantly:

How do you handle summer vacation?

Tyler and I were discussing this the other night because I do not know how I can do it all in the summer. I thought I would go down to a 2 post a week schedule, but I have a certain standard I want to keep and I keep hearing my mom’s voice in my head,

“If you are going to do something, do it well, or don’t do it at all.”

Not to mention, I really love my blogging time. I can have a life too, right?

PS. I bow down to all of you who work outside of the home, take care of your family and still write great blogs!

I Could Be Dead Now and You Would Never Know!

**Don’t forget to think about your Feel Good Friday post. What is Feel Good Friday? In case you missed it, click here to find out.**

When do you write?

Do you write the same day your post is published?

In case you haven’t figured it out by now, I do not write the same day as my post is published. I have a whole long list of scheduled posts to come out. If something happens that is really exciting I try to write it and post the next day, but basically, you are reading about what has happened to me, oh… about 7-10 days ago!

I figure that in case we get sick over here or something terrible happens, I will be prepared and not have to scramble.

Usually, after the weekend I have a ton of ideas and then spend the next 2 days just writing and writing.

So, tell me! What’s your blogging system? 

Comment Love & Crazy Code Writing

Just like you, I love, love, love all of the comments I receive. They are always so delightful and really, really thoughtful!  It makes me giddy and I smile all day long.


Thank You!!

The one thing that annoys me is that I cannot reply to the comments and have you receive them in email unless I move to WordPress.

Yeah… like I have THAT kind of time on my hands…

So I have done 2 things:

  1. I wrote code people!  If you look at the comment section in the future, my responses to you will be highlighted in blue. 
  2. I also inserted the Recent Comment gadget on the left sidebar which will display it all.

Of course, I will still visit all of your blogs, but now I can just focus on commenting on your posts instead of leaving a comment and replying to the comment you have made on mine.

Making Sense?!

I hope you like it… until I work up the nerve to switch to WordPress. 

If any of you know a WordPress Fairy that can show me the way I would be grateful, or if you have made the move to WordPress, I would be so happy to hear how it went and if you like it.

Also, I have received many awards in the last 3 weeks and once the holidays are over I will be gladly passing them along.